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Signs that You Are a Strict Parent

Are you setting rules that are fair and balanced? If you yell a lot at your children, you already teach them to be aggressive towards you in turn

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We know that your job is to set limits and rules for them and make sure that they follow those rules.

But if you tell your child that they cannot go anywhere because they hurt themselves or didn’t clean their room, you are too strict.

Your child realizes that you are always right and that they cannot act as they please around you.

Because of that, they feel not free when with you; they will often be in their room, they are always avoiding you whenever they see you, and you feel like they are getting further and further away from you.

Do you feel that way? If you feel like that, then you are a strict parent.

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What is strict parenting?

Strict parenting is the opposite of lenient parenting; it is more controlling and does not accept a child who doesn’t conform to your expectations.

Strict parenting often involves very rigid limitations on children in every activity, choice, behavior, and even their daily routine. But the term is highly subjective since there really is no official guide to follow as a parent.

So, how do we know what is proper parenting? First, parents need to determine what is best for them and their families. Children need their parents’ love and respect, but parents need to know what is best for their kids.

If you are raising children who have a history of drug abuse, alcohol addiction, or other problems, then it is not abnormal to be a strict parent.

The key here is to set rules that are fair and balanced. What is strict parenting to one child may not be to another, so you need to find what works for you and your family.

Some parents who were very strict in the past are now less strict because they realized what a good role model parenting could be.

What are the consequences of being a strict parent?

So, what is the consequence of being a strict parent to you? Not getting your child to do what you want or not being able to stop them from doing what they want to do are two of the major things that come to mind when you say “being a strict parent.”

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“But wait… aren’t all parents strict at some point? I mean, everyone has their rules….”

The fact is, we all have our rules, and that’s what makes us different.

One important thing is to make sure that you know the effect of what you’re trying to accomplish as well as how to implement the idea in your child’s life. If they understand and respect your rules, they are much more likely to follow them.

It would help if you never feared asking a question or explaining a rule to your child because ultimately they are the one that is going to have to live with it, so you might as well get them to start working towards the goal that you both have set.

So what is the sign that you are a strict parent? If you want to know, let’s continue reading.

The first sign is:

Not allowing your child to make decisions for themselves

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Even though you might be loving and trying to help, if you think that you should be in control all the time, then you might want to rethink this.

In order to help your child learn how to make choices, you should make sure that they understand the consequences of those choices.

You should also make sure that they are prepared for the decision so that they do not feel bad about it later on.

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A child who knows what is expected of them and is ready to take responsibility for their own life will be much happier, and they will more likely be able to be an involved parent.

Let them make a decision on their own. Give them some room to make their own choices. If you tell them that something is wrong and make sure they do it right, they will not like that idea.

They may become defensive if you tell them this. They need to know that you are not the one controlling their every action.

The kids don’t agree with your decision

Another thing that you can tell that you are too strict as a parent is when you try to stop them from doing something, they don’t agree with your decision.

This can make a child feel unwanted and make them less willing to follow the rules because they do not enjoy following the rules.

Instead of trying to discipline a child who has too many problems, why not find a way that will allow the child to learn what they need to do to get what they want and still be able to live a peaceful and happy life.

There are too many rules for your kids

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Too many rules from strict parents can make a child feel like they have to worry about their behavior all the time.

This can lead to a feeling of shame, and that will not help the situation at all. It can also cause the child to act out so they can get some attention.

When dealing with a child who has too many problems, you may want to try something new. For example, maybe the parent is always making sure the child is doing everything right.

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Well, there is nothing wrong with making sure that your child is doing everything right, but there are some things that a parent should not be doing.

If you punish your child for breaking the rules, then they are not learning anything except that it is better to be punished than not to be punished.

Parents should also not talk badly about their child to other parents on the internet or in school.

There are too many rules from strict parents that will not help a child in any way. If you want to be successful at parenting, you should try to eliminate the rules that are too excessive or unreasonable for your child.

If you do this, you will have an easier time raising healthy children and will have more peace in your home when your child gets older and moves out on their own.

Too Many Rules From Strict Parent Can Make a Child Feel Discouraged

Yelling without worries about their feelings

It might be helpful to ask yourself why you are yelling without reason. It would help if you found out what triggered that sudden outburst of words and actions.

If you are sure that it is not a lack of affection on your part or some other emotional disturbance, then you might have to work on that problem before you are able to help your child with any other problem he might have.

But when you start screaming without reason, you are simply hurting your child. Not only that, you are making yourself seem like a dangerous person.

Instead of shouting at your child, try to figure out how you are going to make your child understand better why you feel the way you do.

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For example, try talking to your child, showing your child signs that you are happy and that things are okay. This might take some time, but you should be able to convey those feelings to your child without anger or force.

Remember that children are responsive to positive messages, even if they are as young as two or three. Yelling without reason can turn into something negative as soon as your child gets the wrong message from your actions. Yelling without worries about children is not a good idea at all.

If you can teach your children to deal with their anger when they can’t control it, they will be happier in the long run.

It is a proven fact that children who have better relationships with their parents are more likely to do well in school and become successful adults.

So if you find that you are getting upset when you get angry with your kids, teach them to express their anger in a non-threatening way.

Likewise, when a child gets annoyed or hurts, they should know how to express that effectively without getting aggressive.

Parents that yell a lot without worrying about children are actually doing their children a disservice. They are teaching their children to treat their parents badly, which could cause future problems.

If you feel that you are doing this, then you should try to find a way to communicate with your children without constantly shouting and getting angry.

Your kids didn’t bring their friends home

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Have you ever wondered why your child didn’t bring their friends home? We think that your child might be afraid that you will cause a problem and will scold them in front of their friend.

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They are also afraid their friends will laugh at them, or their friends might leave them. This is why they didn’t bring their friends home.

You didn’t allow your kids to have friends

you didn't allow your kids to have friends are signs that you are a strict parent
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Many parents make the most common mistake because they don’t allow their kids to have any friends. This doesn’t seem right because friends are supposed to be around to support each other and not make your child feel like an outsider.

Even if you tell your child that it is not okay for them to have friends, they may still do it. You shouldn’t expect your child to be a child forever because they might start to feel like they are being left behind or being replaced as they grow older.

They might want to hang out with their friends more often, but they should always think twice before doing so. This is where strict parenting is different from permissive parenting.


There are many ways to become a strict parent without hurting your child. First, you have to find the right method. Remember that it is not what you do to your children that makes them happy. It is rather how you act when you are with them.

If you want to repair your relationship with your kids, you should let them know that you believe in their ability, and they need to learn how to get help if they need it. Unfortunately, most strict parents act as cold as ice with their kids; this is why their kids are afraid to make their parents friends.

You need to be friendly with them, don’t scold but talk gently to them and be their friend